Express

So was having a crappy day today. Almost a month of the family falling sick can do that to someone. And then a decade old friend shared a Facebook memory stating this about me,  ” A true friend, close to heart. Someone I can chat, fight, trouble, like

And my day just brightened. Well, it might have had something to do with my hubby making me a gorgeous cup of coffee as well. But then it IS always great to be appreciated. To know that someone who means anything to you actually reciprocates those feelings. Have you ever wondered how wonderful it would be for the people in your life to KNOW they are cherished ?

When I was younger I was surrounded by people who would not be too kind with their words. ( an understatement ) And then I read that one should ” try to compliment 3 people a day. ” I think a combination of these have led me be very open with my feelings. With mommy hood it’s hard to find 3 people daily so I try my best to shower those around me with the praise that they rightfully deserve. So much so that sometimes I even get conscious of doing the same but now it’s such a habit that I find myself unable to stop.

I know it’s not easy to just say what you admire or feel but don’t we many a times go ahead and express our negative feelings with those we care for the most. We take them for granted. We tease, we use sarcasm, anger or vent sadness even. Or just stay away from them when our ” mood ” desires.

In FACT, we tend to reserve our best self for those outside our personal circle. You know who I’m talking about. The colleagues you don’t actually care about, the acquaintances you meet at parties, the people at the store we will probably never even meet again. And our worst self, our expectations, our deepest emotions we express openly in front of those who are closest to us. Those who mean the world to us.

So why not treat those same people with the kindness of words, as often as we can? I’m not saying don’t share everything with them. But that make sure along with all the other stuff they KNOW that they are special, that they make Your world a better place by being a part of it.

Don’t wait for a ” special day “. Go tell that friend, relative, spouse or child that they are special or pay them a real compliment. Trust me, it’s not a wasted gesture!  In today’s world where the opportunity to express kindness by actions may be few and far between, this is the least we can do.

About Aditi Wardhan Singh

I'm a mom living in Virginia, enjoying chronicling my various escapes with the kids and around the kitchen. I believe being a mom involves a balance of holding on and letting go. And since being a mom is a 24/7 job, cooking though essential, needs to be as easy as can be. So peruse my blog for various experiences in parenting and experiments in cooking.
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2 thoughts on “Express

  1. Sorry you’re having a rough time. I agree that sometimes we show our worst to our nearest and dearest. True, we should be able to let our guard down at home, but sometimes we forget to also make an effort to be our best to those we love the most. Fell better!

  2. Such a great post! My parent always taught me growing that we should give those closest to us our best. Now that I’m married and a SAHM I finding this so hard but I agree with you. It’s so important to uplift our closest friends and families. Thank you for sharing this. ?

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