When hubby and I started to get to know each other, we rejoiced in our common interests. Music , reading, photography etc. After marriage we realised that though we had common interests, the subjects of those interests are totally different.
I love hindi music whereas he loves sinatra and dean martin. I love reading novels whereas he loves reading books on programming. I will watch anything on television with a storyline whereas he only turns on the tv when there’s a good car show or documentary. I love taking pictures of moments whereas he loves taking pictures of things that don’t talk. And as time passes by our differences and characteristics only become more and more obvious. Everything is debatable, from the temperature of the room to what we want to do over the weekend. Now that we are parents; be it co sleeping or food, the parenting ‘ discussions’, are only more livid.
None the less often enough a smile creeps through and we find laughter bubbling through us when we recognize the humor in the words coming out of our mouths about a topic that is really not that important or urgent in the bigger scheme of things.
When we rib each other in front of friends or family even, I hear many, ” We are the same way ” and chuckles break out as the fond jabbing begins. That laughter is not one of ridicule but of endearment. I guess that is because most people realize that even though it’s those differences that sometimes make life difficult but it’s those same differences that expand our horizons beyond where we could see alone. And let’s admit it, what fun would their be in marriage without the spice of arguments and making up!
For fact is us even though we are opposite in tastes, couples in essence have the same values which is what brings them together in the first place. If we are willing to recognize that being different is what makes us who we are alone and as a couple, life gets that much colourful.
In the end, it’s not whether we are opposite or the same, it’s the fact that we can laugh about either one that makes us stronger as one.
