The first time someone called me Mrs. Singh, I was getting on a plane going to Goa on our honeymoon. I’ve been Miss. Singh all my life so being called Mrs. Singh was such a rush !! Took a second to register that I’ve now taken on a number of new versions of me, the most important of which is I’ve become the other half of a PAIR.
It is so different to become someone’s spouse. Dreams and aspirations grow exponentially as your life is joined to another. I wonder then why is it that many do not take this relationship for what it is. A bond that could last a lifetime, if you allow it. Your family before marriage and your unborn children may be near or far, present or not. Yet this one person has sworn to be by your side till the last breath.
Might be a little naive but I believe if only we all realize this in time, many of the nuances that drive one crazy might seem silly in comparison.
I’m not one to advice anyone to stay in a loveless or unhappy relationship. But being happy in one takes a lot of work, trust, respect, laughter and affection. It’s not just about Love. Love is just a word that’s a culmination of all these and the every day moments that make your life.
It’s something that we need to be dedicated to wholly understanding that this person, whose tied to us lives with our mistakes, our stupidity, our annoying habits and with all our joys and sorrows.
I feel sad when I hear of relations that aren’t working. It’s a choice that needs to be rejoiced and cherished not a burden to carry all your life.
It takes so little to see the beauty in another. Yet unrealistic expectations, others’ opinions, attraction, jealousy, distractions, money etc are allowed to come between two people joined in soulful bond. Why do people let anything or anyone come between them and the one they chose to live their life with ?
I know all this sounds very simplistic. One may say there’s so much more to a relationship that’s ” complicated “. But it boils down to only one thing. If someone want’s to be with you, nothing and no one can come between you. The two of you can bring down any hurdle together with understanding, time and patience. For all other situations, there are just a million and one excuses. Love factors no where in that equation.
For if there is love, there is a desire to see the other happy. Be it any relation. It’s that simple.
beautifully written! loved it Mrs Singh! 🙂